My first practicum was on Loyalty to my friends. I spent the week doing three main things as a way to further my knowledge: I paid special attention to my close friends, kept a daily private journal of where I practiced Loyalty that day, and I contemplated what Loyalty means to me every night for 10 minutes before I went to sleep. Through doing these three things, I gained a further sense of what Loyalty means to me, and what influence it has on my life.
The first aspect of my practicum, paying special attention to my close friends, played out as me spending more time with several of them, and if I didn't do that, making sure that they were doing well and having a nice conversation with them. While this is what I do on a day-to-day basis, I rarely do so consciously. Some of my conversations took place over the phone, which I've only done several times in my life and I don't think I'll continue in the future. During the week, I also made a concentrated effort to take care of my body, so that I could be more fully present for my friends. There were also times where I got angry at my friends, and I made the decision to handle the situation in a more compassionate way than I usually would. I do not think that I will deliberately change anything about how I life my life as a result of this week. I am satisfied and proud of the kind of friend that I am right now, and if anything about how I interact with my friends changes, it will not be deliberate.
I found it difficult to keep a journal of what I did involving Loyalty, because I wasn't in the habit of doing so. I will not be sharing the entries that I wrote down, as they all involve privileged topics. Common themes in them were about spending time with friends, walking them through situations where they didn't know what to do, and understanding when they weren't at their best. I suppose keeping a daily journal would be a good idea, not to reflect on Loyalty only, but to process this point in my life, which is at times stressful and difficult to deal with. Through the journal that I kept for this week, I realized how important my friends are to my life. Nearly every waking moment I am interacting with at least one of my friends, often several at a time. Another thing I've noticed is that I'm always thinking about my friends, they're always what I put first. While I knew before this week that I valued my friends immensely, I have come to the realization that I can't be content unless I have some form of contact with the people that I care the most about.
In my nightly reflections, what I accomplished was to develop a deeper understanding of what Loyalty means to me. During the course of my reflections, I found that Loyalty for me can be broken down into three distinct parts that stem from this principle: Caring, Integrity, and Respect. These three are all intertwined: combining Integrity and Respect leads to Caring, Caring and Respect to Integrity, and Caring with Integrity to Respect. They are united under the underlying principle of Loyalty, and for me it cannot exist without these three essential components. While I already practice these things on a very high level with my friends, I do feel I can sustain this “higher level” of Loyalty to my friends.
This week was a wonderful experience for me. I feel that I got the opportunity to explore this idea fuller and flesh-out what it really means to me. This week also gave me the experience of what my life would be like if I operated at an optimal level of Loyalty all the time, which I will strive to sustain in my everyday life. I find practicing it a very fulfilling personal experience, and I strongly believe that it makes my friend's lives better. The greatest gift that this week has given to me is clarity on what exactly this idea means to me. It has always been difficult for me to put my deepest concepts into words that adequately describe them, which is why I love to write about my beliefs so much. Being able to put words to what it means to be Loyal gives me a better way to practice it in my own life, which makes my world a better place to live in, that is what I believe.
